Sadis.. Gambar Bayi Dikelar

 

Sedihnya tengok gambar ni.. seorang bayi yg baru dilahirkan kurang dari 24jam dikelar diseluruh badan oleh ibunya yg berusia 16 tahun di asrama sekolah di Betong, Sarawak.

Tersentap hati ibu tengok gamabr yg menyayat hati ni.. tak sanggup nak tengok.. kenapa ada orang yg berhati binatang macam ni? Sebab dia kelar anak tu adalah kerana kekasihnya tak nak terima anak luar nikah hubungan diorang. Nau'zubillah....

Comel sangat baby tu.. kenapa la sanggup bunuh.. bayi tu tak bersalah, tak berdosa.. mak nya tu sure sakit mental. Kalau macam tu lebih baik la dia gugurkan kandungan daripada melahirkan. Baby tu masih bernyawa masa dia kelar.. kenapa dia tak tikam jer terus mati on the spot? Kenapa mesti kelar sikit-sikit sampai 8 kelar kat badan baby tu??? Ishhhh.. marah sungguh ibu kat orang yg buat baby kecik macam tu. Kalau la org tu ada dpn ibu.. memang makan penampor la.

Banyak lagi kes macam ni.. kes buang bayi. Sedih la.. kenapa masyarakat Malaysia macam ni? Yg byk buang tu pulak adalah Melayu. Bagi lah kat orang yang nak.. ataupun bagi kat JKM.. at least makan minum anak tu terjaga. Ibu sanggup terima.. sanggup jaga macma anak sendiri... lebih baik drpd dibuang tepi jalan ibarat anak kucing.Anak kucing pun ada harga diri tau... gile la pempuan tu!

Tak tau lah ibu nak buat apa. I am not a prime minister who can change the country... nor I am a minister of welfare who make decision on the abandon kids.. I am just an ordinary woman who voiced out my feelings and opinions in my personal blog which no one will read.

Actually, ibu ada satu impian... ibu nak buka satu rumah kebajikan untuk anak-anak yg dibuang dan dijumpai orang. Tapi anak-anak yang HIV free je.. sebab nye yg HIV positif ni cerewet dari segi penjagaan, rutin harian dan pemakanan. Tak larat la ibu nak handle HIV case.. Remaja perempuan yg dibuang keluarga atau tak tau mana nak letak anak tu lepas lahir, boleh hantar kat rumah kebajikan tu. Tujuan ibu adalah mengurangkan kes buang bayi dan menyediakan tempat perlindungan yg digelar "rumah" untuk anak-anak ini dimana meraka akan merasa kasih sayang berkeluarga.. Macam Rumah Solehah and Keluarga Besar.

Trying To Conceive

Raya baru ni, we all balik kampung ayah at Kelantan. Memang setiap tahun raya balik sana... mana pernah balik kampung lain.. Raya kali ni our theme color was purple. 

Cerita yang bestnya; this was the first raya Zafran has a baju melayu and ibu met old friends - Shida, Muni, Awa and Kak Aida during the 4th day of raya at Kota Bharu as it was Awa wedding reception. We stayed together when we were postgrad students at Mahallah Safiyyah, UIA.

Yang tak bestnya pulak; 4 of ibu's in-laws are pregnant. 1 will deliver this October. The other three will having babies early next year. It means my parents in laws will receive 3 grandchildren next year which is for sure none of them is from me.

When all of us sat down together, the main topic is their pregnancy. They talked about morning sickness, fetus movement, diet and supplement, preparation.... everything related to pregnancy.  which make ibu feels like a stranger among them. All of them voiced except ibu yang cuma diam membisu. So ibu was being the one out of group. Lastly, ibu blah la pergi tempat lain. Cari penyakit je kalau lama2 duduk in the group.

Tuhan je yang tau perasaan dalam hati. Kalau ikutkan hati sekarang jugak ibu nak pregnant. Tapi macam mana... walaupun kita cuba tapi bila Tuhan belum nak bagi rezki lagi pada kita, tetap belum ada hasilnya. 

Ibu dah cuba to pregnant, sekarang ibu nak start berusaha pulak untuk pregnant. Zafran pun dah setahun setengah... so it time for ibu to start trying to give him a sister or brother.

Insya ALLAH... Allah itu MAHA ADIL. Ayah pernah cakap dia yakin ibu akan pregnant.. cuma masa yang tak tau, so ibu pun kena yakin dengan diri sendiri. Ibu just kena percaya pada ALLAH dan yakin dengan doa & harapan ayah.

Zafran Kena Marah

Lamanya ibu tak update blog... lama sgt tak update cerita pasal Zafran... so many things to jot down about him.. Let start with what happened yesterday.....

Zafran now has a bad habit.. ibu don't know whether psychologically it is a habit or normal behavior for babies as Zafran. Recently, Zafran loves to spill out his milk from the his bottle. What he will do is he will hold the bottle upside down. He likes to see the milk coming out from the teats, wetting the floor or his clothes. Then he will plays with the spilled milk on the floor or laughs when his clothes is all wet. What is the worst is he did it on carpet! which makes ibu so angry.  On floor ok lagi, ibu can wipe .. and change his clothes. But this on carpet ok.. how ibu gonna clean the carpet? It takes hours to clean it using Febreez and wait it till dry. 

 lebih kurang macam ni la Zafran buat... tapi ni bukan Zafran .. Gambar ni ikhsan pakcik google

Ok, ibu knows that Zafran is in the exploration stage. Scientifically maybe he is curious how the milk drop when the bottle is upside down. Cognitively he is trying to get the answer for his curiosity. Maybe he thinks the the milk drop as a new design and invention. However..... psychologically, it is not a good behavior. Thus, he did it many times.. several time in a day that make ibu called it as HABIT.

What makes ibu worries is when the habit happens while we are in ayah's hometown in Kelantan for this coming raya. Ibu's experience is telling that this is not a good behavior that Zafran's shall bring on.

Yesterday, Zafran did it again. Immediately ibu hit his hand and told him "Buat lagi.. kan Ibu dah cakap jangan tumpahkan susu mcm tu. Buat lagi kena lah Zafran dengan ibu". Ibu hit several time as he did not show any reaction when ibu hit him for the first and second time. Rasanya 4 5 kali gak la tangan kecil Zafran tu kene tepek dengan tapak tangan ibu yg besar ni. Habis merah tangan Zafran. Kesan jari ibu pun ada kat tangan Zafran. Terus ibu stop. Rasa kesian pulak menular dalam hati ibu. I should not did this. Terus ibu usap tangan Zafran yg merah tu sambil cakap yg ibu minta maaf. Ibu buat macm tu sebab ibu marah Zafran x dengar cakap ibu. Dalam hati sebenarnya ibu risau kalau2 Zafran buat macam tu depan family di Kelantan. Ibu thinks biarlah Zafran dimarahi dengan ibu daripada Zafran dimarahi oleh orang lain.

Malam tu... Zafran datang senyum2 main sebelah ibu. Tetiba Zafran hit ibu's hand. At that time Ibu realized that Zafran absorbs what ibu did to him as a play. He hit ibu's the way ibu did to him. But he smiled and laughed. Ibu realized that what ibu did on Zafran as wrong.  Ibu starts to think what is the correct way for ibu to teach Zafran to stop the behavior? Ibu's paranting is not correct. Ibu starts to think and googling info related to this. 

Now, ibu is still collecting info and study on the right way to teach children to stop undesired behaviors and the best parenting techniques. 

Durian Season

Tak larat nak cerita byk.. coz rite now ibu is in office and it is already 5 p.m.. restless and missing little Zafran so much while he is at his nursery.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Refresh @ Fraser Hill

Couples of week ago... on a Sunday morning... dated 25th June 2011..

Ayah: Siap-siap la..

Ibu: Nak pergi mana?

Ayah: Ikut je lah...

Ibu: Zafran?

Ayah: Sekali la.

Ibu: Dekat ke jauh? Brp jam perjalanan? (suspend je ayah ni tau..)

Ayah: 2 jam.

Ibu: Temerloh eh?

Ayah: Ikut je la...

After 5 minutes.....

Ibu: Nak pakai baju ape ni?

Ayah: Pakai je baju apa-apa...

Ibu: Macam mana nak tau pakai baju apa kalau tak tau nak pergi mana?

Ayah: Pakai baju apa-apa jer..

Ibu: Laa.. cakap la pergi mana.. Kalau pergi kenduri, orang pakai baju kurung. Kalau gi rumah orang, pakai baju sopan sikit, kalau g jalan, pakai t-shirt je..

Ayah: Pakai blouse laaa.

Ibu: Blouse? cakap la nak pergi mana.. (nak korek2 lagi tu..)

Ayah: Gi Fraser Hill...

Ibu: Hah, Fraser Hill??? (hati riang gembira....lalalalalalala)

So that morning we went to Fraser Hill which is actually is so near with our place, be we never been there yet. So tak tau apa angin ayah pagi tu, suddenly he wanted to go to the hill. Dari umah heading exit at Tg Malim then heading to Kuala Kubu Bharu. We stop for a while at Kuala Kubu town to buy shoes for Zafran because ibu forgot to bring his army shoes.

The road up up up to the hill is beyond ibu's expectation... I thought it look like the genting's road only, however it is worst than that. Lots of sharp u-corners.. Bia dah nak sampai atas, ibu dah pening.. So Zafran had to be put is sleep mode.. hehehehe otherwise he will throw out his stomach's filling. 

 Zafran still sleeping when we arrived Fraser Hill

 

There was Bird Race competition.. We did not knew about that..

 

Bila dah sampai, kita jalan-jalan dulu. Ye laa kan.. masing-masing tak pernah sampai sini lagi.. jadi jakun le kejap..

cantik nya bunglow ni... so colonnial..

 

Shahzan Inn...

 

 

Bila dah pukul 1 tengahari... Ayah was sooo hungry.. craving for rice... We could not find any food stall or restaurant that sell rice. There was a policeman who showed us the direction.

  

 

Finally, we found a food court..

 

Ni lah kedai nasi campur... kedai ni paling depan kat food court tu.. Rasanya kedai ni je yg jual nasi campur.. yang lain western and ala-carte..

 

Nama kedai tu Restoran Puncak.. Rasa not bad. Price, agak mahal laa... Standard la kaa... dah atas bukit tu.. bukan senang gak diorang nak turun beli raw food.. Yang tengah makan tu ibu tak tau pun sape.. masa ibu nak amik gambor dah diorang duduk makan kat tengah-tengah... masuk je lah sekali..

 

 

Zafran's favorite snack all the time.. keropok lekor...

  

After lunch, ibu and Zafran pergi playground which is next to the food court. Ayah pulak performed solat zuhur kat masjid belakang food court ni.

Budak kecik yang happy dapat main buai....

 

Masa kat playground tu, ada orang korea main buai sebelah Zafran..  Yg ni mak and anak perempuannya...

 

Yang baju kuning tu si ayah dan anak lelaki nya yang baju merah tu.. Best jer dengar diorang cakap korea..

 

 Masjid belakang food court yang hujung paling kanan tu... Nampak kan kubah masjid..

 

Pas dah penat main playground, kita sambung jalan lagi. This time kita pergi tengok waterfall pulak...

 

Susahnya nak buat budak kecik ni pandang kamera..

Macam-macam gaya ayah to get little darling look at the camera...

 

 Ibu pun nak bergambar jugak kan.. Tak aci lah asyik ayah je bergambar..

 

Zafran makan keropok lekor..

 

Budak yang tak nak dokong.. nak lepas nak berjalan sendiri... grrrrrrr

 

 

Nak balik dah... Amik gambar dulu kat jam besar Fraser Hill... ni lah trade mark Farser Hill. Tak lengkap kalau pergi sana tapi tak bergambar kat jam ni..

 

 

Babai Fraser Hill... lain kali kita datang lagi....